Thursday, January 31, 2013
Laying the Foundation
" I get a lot of questions, here and out in the world, about why I'm spending so much time focusing on our relationships, particularly with Josh, instead of educational things. To answer that, keep in mind that Josh is only 8 years old, and has only been out of public school for 6 months. Papa and I have only been learning to parent peacefully for the last year. I'd say we only started getting cons...istently decent at it in the last month or two. So we have 7-8 years of parenting damage to work through, and 2 years of public school damage as well. That is going to take time. And I do appreciate your being patient while most of our posts revolve around this. I have plenty to say about the school system and how children learn, and we will have plenty of time to talk about college and jobs and the like. But right now we are working on fixing our relationships, so that is what I will largely talk about. Understand, we are undoing damage *we ourselves* inflicted. That is not an easy thing to come to terms with. I consider this the most important work we can do to help the boys be successful. No matter what your religion, race, background, intelligence, nationality, gender, or any of that, we all have something in common- interpersonal relationships. If we can help the boys learn to develop healthy relationships, along with reading and basic math skills (which Josh already has) they will be ready to take on the world. Certainly we won't stop there, but we will certainly be spending plenty of time on this foundation.See More "