Our Family's Journey to Peaceful Parenting and Unschooling.
Monday, August 19, 2013
Thoughts on Maternity Care
I am completely disappointed in, even disgusted by, this country's
maternity care standards. I just don't even know what to say, so I'm
going to dump my thoughts.
Papa is a photographer, and he took
maternity photos for a woman. I met her, congratulated her, gave her my
number if she ever needed anything. Pretty standard interaction. She
called me Saturday, bawling that she couldn't sleep, was having
trouble nursing, and other new parent woes. I headed over to see her
yesterday and she told me about her delivery. She was induced
unnecessarily. The baby was "too big", born at a whopping 7 pounds 10
ounces. She had to have a c-section because she did not dilate on the
pitocin. Baby was taken directly to a nursery and given formula against
her wishes. Nurses were rude, one telling her she would not be able to
breastfeed because she had a c-section, another even telling her she was
"too large" to breastfeed successfully. The hospital had no lactation
consultants on staff. She left feeling degraded, a failure.
my complaints are not only with the hospital's actions. She had come
home to no support. No one bringing meals, no one offering newborn care
information, no one to help around the house, no one to help her care
for herself and heal from surgery. Her husband is home with her, but has
to go back to work on Wednesday. Mother will be left ALONE with a week
old baby. Exhaustion is real. Postpartum depression is real, and very
What kind of society are we that this treatment of
mothers and newborns is normal? I know that more and more women are
standing up for themselves and their rights to birth how they want to,
that more women are enlisting the help of doulas, that more women are
building communities and caring for one another. Sadly, this is not the
norm yet. Sadly, many expecting mothers don't even know these options
are out there.
I beg of you, reach out to the people you meet.
Spread kindness and compassion and support. The world needs it so
badly. The mothers and babies need it so badly.