Our Family's Journey to Peaceful Parenting and Unschooling.
Wednesday, August 28, 2013
Bear Becomes Real
(2y) has this bear. It was once a handsome stuffed bear, but over 2
years of being totted around, slept on, and played with has left him
stuffing-less, except for his head and the beans at the ends of his
feet. He is loved.
Recently, Bear has taken on a new role in
the family. A 'real' role. It started with Bug feeding him sips of
water, then proclaiming that I needed to get Bear a napkin to wipe his mouth. The Bear started sharing meals with Bug, getting bites of everything Bug ate.
The next step was that Bear needed to wear a seat belt in the car, so
he now sits in the middle seat buckled up. Most recently he required a
night time diaper and pajama shirt. I'm the opposite of a hoarder, so
dressing Bear in a 3T shirt and toddler sized overnight diaper was....
interesting. Some days I even get to hold him over the toilet while Bear
goes potty in the big potty chair.
I know from things I've
read that Bug's treatment of Bear is a reflection of how we treat Bug.
It makes me smile to see them both treated so well, loved so much. It
didn't really hit me until bedtime the other night though. The three of
us were lying in bed- Bug, Bear and I. Bug and Bear were rolling around,
being silly, playing and laughing.
Then Bug said, "Okay Bear,
you need to calm down. Okay, time to calm down. Here, I snuggle with
you. Here Bear, I get you some covers." He loving laid Bear on the
pillow and pulled the covers up to his chin. He snuggled in next to him
and repeated the above sentences over and over.
My heart could
have exploded. I soaked in his words. I am thankful for what he said,
but more thankful for the things he didn't say. No harsh words, no
demands, no threats. Just love.