Let's talk about how raising Josh (8y) and Bug (2y) to know they own their bodies, and to know they aren't to be coerced plays into bullying.
This is going to be difficult for me to type, but the truth hurts. As a
former authoritarian parent- spanking, yelling, threatening, inflicting
punishments, taking toys away- I was the biggest bully in Josh's life.
If you've been following the page you've
probably seen stories where Josh stood up to me and said "No." or "What
then?" When I am getting out of line and encroaching on him or his
freedom of choice, he calls me out on it. He stands up to me and holds
his ground. His hands may be shaking, but he doesn't back down.
If he can stand up like that to me- the one person with a history of
violence against him, the one person in his life who has bullied him in
the past- he can stand up to anyone.