Our Family's Journey to Peaceful Parenting and Unschooling.
Wednesday, September 4, 2013
A Disappointing Day
I talk about how we don't have "rules" (instead we have principles) or
how we don't use a punishment/reward system in disciplining the kids,
there are always a few people who respond something like, "Kids need to
learn about disappointment, heartache, etc and that life isn't fair."
My response is this. Kids will learn about disappointment, heartache, etc and that life isn't fair. They will
learn this naturally, by living. There is no need for us, as parents,
to create artificial consequences to teach those lessons. Life presents
these situations without any help from us.
yesterday was National Aviation Day and we had plans to go to a flight
museum. It isn't exactly near our house, so we made the trek out, parked
the car, coaxed Bug from his seat, hiked in the sun and heat across the
parking lot to the front door only to find the museum was closed on
Mondays. Both the kids, and Papa and I, were really disappointed.
Alright, we'd driven all this way, what else could we do in the area?
The kids wanted to play at the mall, so we headed that way. While
they're enjoying pretzels and the play area I notice there is a movie
theater in the mall and look up show times. According to my phone,
Planes was starting in 5 minutes. Maybe we could still have an Aviation
themed day after all! Everyone is excited, and we ran alllllllll the way
across the mall to the theater only to find out the time on the site
I'd checked was wrong and the movie isn't starting for another hour.
We ended up seeing another movie instead and
got a giant popcorn to share. Just as we all sat down and the lights
dimmed, Josh accidentally dropped the popcorn all over the floor. Bummer
So you see, our kids' are not sheltered from the
negatives of life (although I admit these examples are definitely first
world problems). The difference is that instead of creating situations
in which our kids feel upset, sad, lonely, disappointed, etc, we are
there to support them through their feelings and help them find healthy
ways of working through them.