Our Family's Journey to Peaceful Parenting and Unschooling.
Wednesday, July 31, 2013
One Minute's Patience
were out today having a late lunch, and it was time for us to move on
to the next activity. Bug (2y) however, was not ready to leave. He was
enjoying playing on the bench outside. I asked him nicely to come with
me to the car, which he kindly declined. I had that compulsion to just
grab him and carry him to the car, most likely kicking and screaming.
Instead, I waited and counted in my head to see about how long it would take him to decide to come along on his own.
Less than 60 seconds.
He finished up playing on the bench, hopped down, and toddled along his
merry way to the car with me. How much stress and hassle would have
come from me grabbing him against his will? Would violating him like
that have been worth one minute? I don't think so. Maybe in another
situation if safety was a concern, but certainly not this one.
How many conflicts could we avoid if we took a deep breath and had one minute's worth of patience?