Our Family's Journey to Peaceful Parenting and Unschooling.
Tuesday, July 30, 2013
I grew up in a very argumentative family. Nothing I ever said or did was
taken for truth without being questioned and inspected. My dad was
"never wrong", and to this day has never admitted anyone has been "more
right" than he was.
Though I haven't talked to my dad more
than 3 times a year for the last 5 or so years, this still has an impact
on how I parent my boys.
When Josh (8y) says something
as simple as, "This box of q-tips is almost empty." I compulsively
think, "No its not! I need to check." This is seriously something my dad
would have said and done. And that's something insignificant, really,
so now imagine my gut reaction to bigger things.
working on changing our parenting for over a year now, yet still I fight
this impulse on a daily basis. I have it much more under control now. I
recognize what's going on in my mind and why. An outsider, even a close
friend, likely wouldn't recognize the effort that goes into a simple
statement like, "Okay honey, I'll put it on the shopping list." Our
childhood experiences are deeply rooted and take time to work through.
We keep on taking it one day at a time.