Our Family's Journey to Peaceful Parenting and Unschooling.
Friday, December 20, 2013
Papa and I have been watching the non-violent communication videos. In them Marshall Rosenberg speaks of natural giving. I know he's not referring to the giving of holiday gifts, but nevertheless this next story reminds me of it.
Last night Papa I were sharing stories of our childhood Christmases, and Papa told of a year he and his brothers got cans in their stockings.
Me- cans like canned food?
Papa- no, empty cans.
Me- decorated or made into toys?
Me- so, trash then.
Papa- pretty much. We didn't have any money that year. They said they'd make it up to us.
Me- that's messed up. Christmas doesn't creep up on people. They could have saved ahead of time or gotten creative and made things.
Papa- yeah, well, you know my parents...
Me- I'm so sorry you had a Christmas like that. Remember the year josh was 5 and we didn't have anything? We still made it special for him.
Josh- how did you get me things if you didn't have any money?
Papa- mama and I did without. We didn't get anything for ourselves and used money we were gifted to get things for you.
Josh- aww, so you guys didn't get anything? I should have gotten you gifts.
Me- no honey, parents are supposed to make sacrifices for their kids, not the kids for their parents.
Josh- but still, I want to get you gifts.
Me- that's nice of you. You've still got time. Let me know if you need me to take you to the store or anything.
He's currently crafting away on something for us. It's so special to see him choosing to make and give a gift on his own motivated by nothing but his own heart.