So the other day Josh and I are talking about him doing something dangerous. I don't remember what exactly it was, but whatever he was talking about doing caused me to spit out the line, "I can get a new [insert item] but I can't get a new Josh."
Later on we were sitting down at dinner, and out of nowhere Josh says, "So that means no more s-e-x for you and daddy." (yes he spelled out the word!)
Naturally, I'm like, "wha.....? Where did this come from?"
Josh, "Well you said you couldn't make another me, so that means no more babies, so no more s-e-x."
I explained that even if we had another baby it would never be the same as he is. Then I explained that there were ways to have s-e-x and not make a baby.
Josh, with a puzzled face, asks, "So you and daddy still have s-e-x?"
"Yup."
"Is that why I'm not allowed in your room sometimes?"
"Yup."
"Hmmm. Okay."
Then we went on eating dinner like no awkward conversation had ever occurred. And really, in our house that isn't awkward conversation (as long as Papa Bear isn't home, he would have been mortified). We're just talking about normal things. Sex is normal, and I'm open and honest with the kids when they have questions.
Have your kids asked you any s-e-x questions? How do you handle them?
I like this post. I am not sure what all your son knows about sex but obviously it didn't need to be a taboo subject. He just had something he couldn't really figure out and you just said plan and simple this and that, then there was no more questions. I could imagine that if you had gotten upitty (or whatever) that it would have sparked more questions in his mind but you kept it simple, answered his questions and then he was satisfied with those answers and left that topic. I see the correlation between making a big stink about it and how that makes kids want to dig more and ask more questions.
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