Our Family's Journey to Peaceful Parenting and Unschooling.
Monday, June 10, 2013
A Peak into the Past
Let me give you a peak into what our family life was like when Josh (8y) was in public school.
We had to wake him up very early, fight with him about getting dressed,
brushing his teeth, eating breakfast, putting on shoes, and getting out
the door. Maybe we had 10 minutes of good conversation in the car, but
usually it was grumpiness or silence. I dropped him off at the door and
away he went to ...school while I went to work.
Despite being an 'active' parent volunteering for class parties and
field trips, I really had no idea what went on with him while he was at
school save for the little bits he would rarely share with me, notes
home, emails to the teacher, and the tri-yearly conferences.
Evenings were a mess of paperwork, homework, dinner, fighting over
dinner, fighting over bath time, fighting over bedtime (which was
unnaturally early since he had to get up so early the next morning).
Weekends, maybe we'd do something fun. Maybe we'd go out, visit
friends, visit family, but even that had to be squeezed in between
laundry, more homework, grocery shopping and the like.
lives were like a dissonant chord that would occasionally resolve. We
lived a life of stress and conflict punctuated by brief moments of
happiness and togetherness.
That was not the life and
relationship I had dreamed of when I wanted to have children. That was
not what I imagined during the months of trying to conceive. That was
not what would make all the aches and pains of pregnancy and childbirth,
or the struggles of caring for an infant worth it. That was not good
enough for us. And so we stopped.
Now, we live a life of
happiness and togetherness punctuated by brief moments of stress and
conflict. This is the life of which I'd dreamed. These are the
relationships I'd imagined. This life is worth every sacrifice. This
life is great.